Life’s Little Lessons, & Why I Hate Chicken Balls


For those of you who have been following my blog for a while (thank you kindly!) or if you are a recent follower (thank you kindly, too) you often see that I post a lot of photos related to Chicago sunrises, architecture, and the like.  You might also notice that I like to write about inspiring moments, uplifting encounters and observations that I come across and feel you might like to read about.

I have also written about Chicago facts and findings from in and around the Chicagoland area.  However, today’s post is of a completely different nature.  I’ve been writing a lot lately about stress and the importance of managing its nasty occurrences.  For me, humor is a huge stress reliever.  With this in mind, I thought I would write about something that happened to me many, many years ago, in the hope that you will see the humor and life lessons in my tumultuous tale!

Many, MANY moons ago, after recently graduating University (college), I met a guy who, by all accounts, seemed, ‘nice’ at the beginning of our very short dating stint.  He was smart, decent looking, and had a beautiful hot tub in his backyard that he built himself!!  *LOL*

I realized shortly after getting to know him that this fellow had some very unpleasant character, “flaws”, shall we say.  *Note*:  When someone tells you they are, “Just kidding; I don’t really need to have EVERYTHING my way”, delete the, “just kidding” part, and take the rest of the sentence as categorically, TRUE!

Now, where was I? Ah yes, I was ready to tell you the rest of my life lesson anecdote.  One night, ‘flaw-guy’ asked me to go out for dinner, and noted he was taking me somewhere special.  Dressed in what I felt was appropriate attire for a ‘special dinner’, ‘flaw-guy’ picked me up sporting old jeans and a t-shirt.   Perhaps the word, ‘special’ meant something completely different to him than it did to me! One could only hope!

We ended up at a Chinese restaurant.  Not fancy, not a dive, but clearly somewhere locked right in the middle of the dining experience continuum line.  From what I recall, not too much dialogue occurred between us.  I was more interested in the bobblehead ‘fish decor’, and he seemed enamored with his chopsticks.  After what seemed like an eternity, our food in all its grandeur arrived at our table.  Hoping to salvage a bit of fun in what was clearly a date that was going down in a blaze of glory, I attempted to pick up a sweet and sour chicken ball with my chopsticks.

As if by some unwanted comedic timing, as I put the chicken ball to my mouth the words, “I think we should see other people” drifted across the table and smacked me right in the face.  Cue the comedy:  my chin dropped, and so did the chicken ball, straight down into my cleavage!  He began to laugh.  I mustered up what tiny bit of decorum I could manage, reached down into the front of my shirt, grabbed that chicken ball, threw it onto my plate, and walked on out of that ridiculous scene.

Without a taxi in sight (and not too many people were using cell phones yet), I managed to find some change at the bottom of my purse, looked for the nearest bus stop, and onward home I went.


Life lessons come in all kinds of packages, don’t they? In my case it came in a Chinese ‘to-go’ carton.  So here is my take on what I hope will have a positive impact on someone who reads this post.


Life Lessons I Learned From This Food Fiasco:

  1. When someone ‘shows’ you who they are, believe them.  You will not be able to change them; it does not work that way.  You cannot ‘make’ someone into something they are not, or change someone who chooses not to change or work on themselves.
  2. Do NOT settle.  Just because the trappings of another (okay, I liked the hot tub, it was nice) are compelling does not dictate ignoring the sludge of the situation.  One bad part of the apple CAN spoil the entire experience.
  3. Listen to your inner self.  The inner “GPS” is definitely a guiding force that can keep you on the right path.  If your GPS tells you to turn right at the next juncture but you turn left and end up at the Walmart instead of Macy’s, the GPS wasn’t trying to trick you; neither is your inner self.
  4. Believe that you deserve better.  Despite the fact you have experienced something with another person that was downright crappy, this is not the only person in the world.  The Universe has not suddenly become deprived of wonderful individuals for you to meet.  They have been there all the time; it is simply YOU who needs to fine-tune your inner self to attract a person that is as incredible as you are.  YOU deserve it!
  5. Teach people how to treat you.  We humans are quite adaptable (this is both a good and not so good thing).  Set your boundaries, do not allow anyone to compromise your personal sphere with anything less than respect, kindness, and caring.
  6. When you realize it is you, not anyone else that has your power, these lessons don’t show up any longer.  That is when you know you’ve ‘passed the Universal test’ of a particular life lesson.

Well, I feel I have come a long way from this particular life lesson.  I needed a few extra reminders after this situation.  However, I can honestly say that I am now onto other lessons.  Hhhhmmm, yet there is still something unsettling about chicken balls………


  33 comments for “Life’s Little Lessons, & Why I Hate Chicken Balls

  1. September 25, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    Well, we all learn, don’t we…And, like you say, we keep learning new things…!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. September 25, 2016 at 4:00 pm

    I loved this post. Tons of wisdom here!

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 25, 2016 at 4:37 pm

      Why thank you so much, doc! Muchly appreciated! Cher xo

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  3. September 25, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    Nicely shared (and with good humor), Cher. 🙂

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    • September 25, 2016 at 6:03 pm

      Thank you, Brett! I think at the time it happened I felt it was anything but humor. However, after such a long time, I can see ONLY the humor in the situation! *LOL* Cher xo


  4. September 25, 2016 at 5:19 pm

    Great post and thoughts Cher. If I may say, that fella was a complete (insert word) and never deserved you. Glad you moved on. I’ve never heard of chicken balls. Chicken meat isn’t round! ❤️

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    • September 25, 2016 at 6:04 pm

      Ah, thank you so much, John! That is very thoughtful of you to say! Well chicken balls are primarily breading and not much, um, well, “chicken”! *LOL* Cher xo

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  5. September 25, 2016 at 6:37 pm

    Still laughing!

    Liked by 1 person

  6. September 25, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    😀 Humorous and profound Cher. Nice ::)

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 25, 2016 at 6:51 pm

      *LOL* Thank you, Ronnie! I certainly learned a lot from that dining experience!!! Cher xo

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  7. September 25, 2016 at 9:25 pm

    Quite a different post, for sure, Cher. Liked it very much. You have imparted a great life-lesson, and when young, we need those in order to go forward well-armed. The first on your list is reminiscent of Angelou’s saying, which Hillary Clinton has used is: “If someone shows you who they are, believe them.” BTW, chicken balls are really very good if they end up in your mouth instead. Haha.

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    • September 25, 2016 at 9:43 pm

      Hi dear Carol! Oh really? I did not know Maya Angelou said that. *LOL* Yes, they are good when they are eaten, aren’t they? *grin* Cher xo


  8. September 26, 2016 at 3:13 am

    Of all the advice you listed above, “listen to yourself” is the most important.

    Every time I fail to do so, I’m in a world of hurt.

    Thanks for sharing you date disaster story, and a bit of sage advice. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 26, 2016 at 7:19 am

      Why thank you, my dear! I agree with you; listening to ourselves is the most important, to be sure. *LOL* You are most welcome! I hesitated to write this post, as it is so different from my usual (and took me a lot longer to write than what I thought it would). Cher xo

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  9. Mjollnir MacAlba
    September 26, 2016 at 3:33 am

    Chicken balls and cleavage? I’m thinking, good combination. Wanna see my hot tub? :-0

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 26, 2016 at 7:20 am

      *LOL* *LOL* Ach aye, me Scottish friend! Would I expect anything BUT yer comment? Nae!!! Cher xo


  10. Mjollnir MacAlba
    September 26, 2016 at 7:27 am

    You know me so well. darling 😉

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  11. September 27, 2016 at 9:24 am

    A great and funny story! Life lessons come in all forms.
    Be sure to have cab fare home next time

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    • September 27, 2016 at 8:11 pm

      *LOL* Thank you, dear Eddie! Oh yes, an important thing to have, isn’t it? *grin* Cher xo

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  12. September 27, 2016 at 9:38 am

    Oh, what a lesson Cher. Our inner gut, instinct, voice or intuition is never wrong and we should learn to trust it from early age. That could save us for many bad experiences later in life.
    I’m happy, that you can laugh of this today Cher and even more, that you left this “male” for good.

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    • September 27, 2016 at 8:24 pm

      Thank you, Irene! Oh yes, you are absolutely correct! Lessons learned when we are young but isn’t it the irony of life that we don’t seem to pay attention then! *LOL* I agree; that ‘male’ had to go! 🙂 Cher xo

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  13. September 28, 2016 at 7:55 am

    Lesson learned, Cher! At least you can laugh about it now. And trusting our gut instinct is the best way to cut through the crap and get to the person we want to be with 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 28, 2016 at 8:12 pm

      Hi Helen! Oh yes, I sure did learn! *LOL* Most definitely! I agree with you completely! We have to just listen to that inner GPS system and get through that crap indeed! Cher xo

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  14. September 28, 2016 at 10:13 am

    Good for you!!! We are never done bettering ourselves and becoming “aware” of ourselves and others.

    Liked by 1 person

    • September 28, 2016 at 8:13 pm

      Thank you, Pamela! That is so true, isn’t it? Cher xo

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  15. October 6, 2016 at 1:41 am

    Reblogged this on Suzie Speaks and commented:
    Another fantastic post from Cher here! Please don’t like or comment on my reblog – hop on over to her blog and say hi!


  16. October 22, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    The balls look good. LOL…..Wonderful heartfelt post.


    Liked by 1 person

    • October 22, 2016 at 2:01 pm

      *LOL* Thank you, my dear! Cher xo


  17. lisaorchard1
    October 30, 2016 at 11:36 am

    Thanks for sharing your life lesson with all of us. I’m sure everyone has had that bad experience, but it’s those experiences will make you appreciate the good ones even more.

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    • October 30, 2016 at 1:40 pm

      Why thank you so much, Lisa! I agree with you wholeheartedly! Comparison brings clarity! Cher xo

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