Saturday Morning Serenity: Becoming Your Own Best Friend

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It’s Saturday morning once again, and as per my usual weekend routine, I have my massive mug of coffee within arm’s reach.  This past week was a mixture of calm, upheaval, stress, quiet, humor, bewilderment, and compassion.

I have posted numerous photos this past week of some gorgeous sunrises that I have been fortunate enough to capture in the morning’s early light!  Today, however, the sky is grey, Lake Michigan has been virtually zapped of all its color, leaving a myriad of grey tones in its wake.  Opposites indeed.  This lead my thoughts to this past week of ‘extremes’.   Likened to the differences between the inspiring, watercolor clouds I bore witness to this past week, compared with today’s grey hues from sky to water, I realize that my experiences last week were also, at times, hovering on the spectrum at each end.

When I was dealing with the downright unpleasant, ‘stuff’, I not for a minute did I feel I could do anything about it.  That was, however, until a conversation with a very wise person made me realize that we absolutely must be our own best friend.  I have heard this before; my dear mother has repeated this to me on many occasions.

But it wasn’t until this past week that it finally started to sink in.  Sometimes in dealing with situations that are so extremely unpleasant we tend to forget the support we have literally inside of us.  Do you remember in, “The Wizard of Oz” when Dorothy was told she had the power all along to go home but she hadn’t realized it?  I think that’s a great analogy of coming to the realization that we have our own best friend within us.  And yes, they have been there all along, through thick and thin, simply waiting for us to recognize this wonderful support that is staring at us in the proverbial mirror!

We are so fixated on the outward; and yes, that is perfectly okay, except when we negate the person who has the built-in capacity to help us; that, of course, is YOU!

Helping others deal with tough situations is honorable, but when it isn’t reciprocated inward then the balance is gone.  Being your own best friend brings a sense of calm, peace, and appreciation for whatever circumstance you find yourself in.  Being your own best friend means you are kind to yourself, thoughtful, gentle, supportive, reassuring, but most of all, loving.  Being your own best friend is one of the most important aspects of our human experience, in my opinion.  I’ve really been missing out on this one!  Being your own best friend also allows you to become an even better friend to others.  When you experience the supportive nature for yourself, it allows you to relate that feeling outward to others.

I wonder what it would be like if people actually took the time to be kinder to themselves.  Do you think they would be happier people?  I certainly think they would.  Stepping back to the Wizard of Oz analogy, the ability has always been there; it just has to be believed.

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  23 comments for “Saturday Morning Serenity: Becoming Your Own Best Friend

  1. September 17, 2016 at 10:51 am

    Thank you for this, Cher! That is such an important reminder. Too often we forget about ourselves, our wonder or to care about ourselves. Only if we are fine with ourselves we can face life in a constructive way!

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    • September 17, 2016 at 11:41 am

      Thank you, Erika! Yes, I agree completely! We have to be our own best friends so we can help others (and ourselves)! And by being positive about who we are does make life a lot better all around! Cher xo

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  2. September 17, 2016 at 1:34 pm

    How massive is your coffee mug?

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  3. September 17, 2016 at 4:23 pm

    Aren’t you the philosopher, Cher? Good subject, good post!!

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    • September 17, 2016 at 4:53 pm

      Thank you, dear Carol!! Cher xo

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  4. September 17, 2016 at 6:51 pm

    Thank you for writing this xx

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    • September 17, 2016 at 7:09 pm

      Why thank you so much, Chrissie! You just made my entire week! Cher xo

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  5. September 22, 2016 at 1:49 am

    Reblogged this on Suzie Speaks and commented:
    I loved this post from Cher last weekend! Something to think about!

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  6. September 25, 2016 at 8:52 am

    Reblogged this on beyondtheflow and commented:
    What fabulous advice…the importance of becoming your own best friend. I have been conscious for some time about our ability to shoot ourselves in the foot and to be our own worst enemy and this works in well with that. I intend to share this with my kids.
    xx Rowena

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  7. September 25, 2016 at 10:19 am

    Good words, Cher!

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  8. September 26, 2016 at 1:27 am

    “Being your own best friend brings a sense of calm, peace, and appreciation for whatever circumstance you find yourself in. Being your own best friend means you are kind to yourself, thoughtful, gentle, supportive, reassuring, but most of all, loving.”

    Thank you for this. I can turn into my inward (quiet) self for support and deep thinking when the outside world is just too much to handle. This is what I have recently learned as I work to embrace my introversion.

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    • September 26, 2016 at 7:18 am

      Why thank you so much for your wonderful words! I too am an introvert. This is another reason to be cognizant of being your own best friend. With introverts such as ourselves, the quiet mind is our haven. I am so glad to hear you are working on embracing your own introversion. Many see me as an extrovert; however, I am not. The inner world is where I gather my calm and peace. Cher xo

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      • September 26, 2016 at 8:10 am

        I grew up an extrovert as I shared in a recent post. I went through a questioning phase and a lot of inner battles before knowing what I really need — to be my own self and best friend and embrace my introversion as my strengths. 🙂 Glad to meet another fellow in blog land. 🙂

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      • September 26, 2016 at 5:47 pm

        Likewise, my dear! I think that is wonderful that you are embracing your introversion as strengths! I shall join you in that!! Thank you! Cher xo

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  9. October 5, 2016 at 5:18 am

    Yes – even though difficult at times – it is important to be kind and to show compassion to ourselves. I found Kristin Neff’s books really interesting and useful in this matter.

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    • October 5, 2016 at 8:02 pm

      I agree; we really need to be mindful of this, don’t we? I don’t know of Kristin Neff. I shall go and look her up right now! Thank you, my dear! Cher xo

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  10. October 17, 2016 at 11:31 am

    Ouch!!! I think you posted this just for me. Thanks for the pinch! xxx

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    • October 17, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      *biggest grin* Why you are most welcome and I am truly glad I could help in a small way!! Cher xo

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