Making Choices Can Change Your Tune

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At the beginning of a new year I always, ALWAYS make resolutions that come fast and furious to my mind with only the best of intentions.  Then the second week of January arrives with its bitterly cold temperatures and gray skies.  That’s when the extra bit of dessert seems to arrive on a nearby plate, along with a ‘note to self’ to “definitely” exercise tomorrow.  *sigh*

Resolutions are great kick-starters, but if you are anything like me they are so incredibly difficult to maintain.  I like the fact that we try to press the restart button on our bad behaviors (yes, eating, not exercising, not enough sleep, and the “etc.” goes on and on, doesn’t it?).

However, this year (along with those resolutions of swapping less sweet-eating with more gym sweating), I also included one that I am really hoping will stand the test of Father Time!

I am often in a situation that either makes me really uncomfortable (or, at the very least, annoys the hell out of me) but I don’t do a thing about it.  I ‘put up with’ something and think to myself how rude that person is, or how thoughtless someone is acting.

I started to think about what I could do to improve these ‘interrupters’ on a daily basis.  So here is what I came up with:  we spend too much time lamenting on past events and worry incessantly about the future.  Because we often do this relentlessly, we aren’t living right here right now in the moment.  And in the truest sense, that is precisely where we need to be.  Well, if I can bring my thoughts to right now, I then have to conclude that I might just have choices to change whatever is going on, instead of letting my thoughts wander to things like, “This person is a total jerk”, which then often leads to, “Oh, I remember that guy I used to know 10 years ago who was the same.”

Or, fast-forward to the future (which is another thing we may find ourselves doing), “I have a meeting in two weeks with a business partner and I sure hope they aren’t going to be a goofball too.”

With my realization that I could actually CHOOSE to do something about an annoying situation as opposed to getting upset about it and letting my thoughts wander to past and future, I decided to make it a New Year’s resolution that I would stay in the present as much as possible.  I would look for opportunities to change my thoughts and behaviors when someone was annoying me in any given situation.

And then, as if on cue, the Universe decided to provide me with a perfectly timed, “test”. Here’s what happened the other day.  As usual, I was on the train making my way home.  A woman decided it would be rather nice to not only share her loud music with the rest of the weary commuters, but she would also provide us with a rather boisterous accompaniment with her off-key vocals.

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The initial knee-jerk reaction I had was, “You are so incredibly rude; who do you think you are?”  And just before I ‘allowed’ that negative energy to take me into more negative thoughts about the past, I was aware that I could make some choices to, ‘tune her out’.  I searched for my Ipod (I still use one, yes), turned up the volume just ever so slightly, and listened to some lovely, calming music.

Ah, but that’s not the end of that lesson!  Just for a crowd pleasing extra feature, our soloist thought it would be better to stand even closer to me just in case I missed her vulgar vocal chorus.  Guess what I did?  I literally got up and moved seats! And then, as I realized that (I think?) I just completed test #1 of the, “Cher, make choices in the moment” resolution, I began to grin.  And I meant it; the grin, that is.

I can honestly say that at that moment, living in the ‘now’, the, ‘present’ and focusing on changing how I felt for the better, provided me with a huge sense of happiness.  I chose to stay in the moment in a pleasant way, and that felt great.

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This is one of the best resolutions I think I’ve ever made thus far.  I have already eaten some extra cookies and the gym doesn’t recall my shadow in 2018 as of yet.  But on that train at that point in time I had a pleasant experience because I made it happen.  Speaks ‘volumes’, don’t you think?

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  17 comments for “Making Choices Can Change Your Tune

  1. January 13, 2018 at 12:34 pm

    It takes great strength to do what you did Cher. Our first reaction might be to yell at the person or walk over there and smash the tune box. How rude. Some days it’s easier to Adult than others!

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    • January 13, 2018 at 2:05 pm

      John, thank you so much! That is extremely kind of you to say. I agree with you; it is often perplexing as to how people think. Cher xo

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  2. January 13, 2018 at 12:52 pm

    Well written, Cher. I could feel the entire situation! Good luck with your resolution. Even if you fail sometime, you are still in the moment.

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    • January 13, 2018 at 2:06 pm

      Thank you so much, Don! And I sure do appreciate your sentiments; if I fail sometime, I am still in the moment. I definitely needed to hear that, Don; thank you! Cher xo

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    • January 13, 2018 at 2:06 pm

      Ah, bless you and thank you my dear! Cher xo

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  3. January 13, 2018 at 2:55 pm

    I love, love, love that, Cher! Your lines hold such an encouraging and enthusiastic power that flows over to the reader… at least to me. I love the topic and I love what you are making of it. Our life is a string of consequences out of our choices. Our choices define the direction where we set our next step. We need to know where we want to go and decide in the first place what choice we make in order to get there.

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    • January 13, 2018 at 3:12 pm

      Why dear Erika, thank you, thank YOU so much for your wonderful words! I love how you describe our choices defining the direction we are going. Beautiful! Thank you my dear!! Cher xo

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      • January 13, 2018 at 3:15 pm

        I thank YOU. Your post spoke volumes to me and I think I needed to read it in order that the message of some particular lines could sink a little deeper.
        Have a lovely weekend, Cher💖

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      • January 13, 2018 at 3:47 pm

        Well that makes me extremely happy to know you HEARD what you needed to, dear Erika; thank you! And I hope you have a lovely weekend as well my dear! Cher xo

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      • January 14, 2018 at 6:43 am

        Thank you so much, Cher! I really hope that we can make a meeting happen one day soon!💖

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      • January 14, 2018 at 11:07 am

        That would be awesome, Erika!!! Cher xo

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      • January 14, 2018 at 1:48 pm

        It would!!💖

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  4. January 13, 2018 at 4:09 pm

    Wonderful post, Cher! And, a great reminder to live in the moment.

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